A woman has confessed she won’t be allowing her sister’s service dog to attend her wedding, due to the fact her fiancé is terrified after being attacked by a dog as a child
A bride-to-be has sparked an interesting debate online, after confessing she has banned her sister’s service dog from attending her wedding.
The woman, who is due to marry her boyfriend of five years in 2023, have opted for a child and pet-free wedding; something which they had hoped all their loved ones would be happy to oblige.
But, this is where things get a little complicated. The bride, 24, has a younger sister, who adopted a golden retriever as a psychiatric support dog to help aid with her bipolar disorder and depression, a little over a year ago.
Generally speaking, people take their service dogs everywhere with them, but the bride has come to a difficult crossroad, due to the fact her fiancé, 29, was attacked by a golden retriever when he was a child, and was forced to attend therapy so he could learn to be comfortable around animals again.
“He is now fine around all dogs but golden retrievers,” the woman explained on Reddit’s AITA forum. “Because of this, my sister always visits us without her dog. She’s usually fine to go out if she is with our mum and doesn’t want to bring the dog, this is what my sister says not me assuming.”
She continued: “When my fiancé sees a golden retriever in public, he usually tries to stay as far away as possible and avoids them until they pass. This is usually extremely distressing and he can’t be in the same area as them. Not always resulting in a panic attack, but having him on edge and in flight or fight mode. Obviously not ideal for our wedding.
“When planning save the dates, we told our immediate family in person. When telling my family, my sister begun talking about how she would buy a bow-tie for her dog to wear at the wedding. This took place at our home and her dog wasn’t present. My fiancé brought up his discomfort and I backed him up, telling her that her service dog couldn’t come to the wedding.”
The woman told her sister she should attend the wedding without her dog, just like she does when she’s visiting their home, and the bride-to-be was quickly accused discriminating against her sister, with the 21-year-old telling her the service dog was “essential for her functioning in life.”
“I brought up how she was her without her service dog ‘functioning’ fine but she immediately starting crying and having a panic attack. My parents took her side and left quickly with her still crying. My brother took my side but that’s only because he believes she doesn’t need a service dog. I have no opinion in her dogs validity,” the woman continued.
“My parents called me the next day to tell me that it wasn’t acceptable not to allow my sisters service dog to come along, and that it would mean she couldn’t come. Honestly we’re not that close and she was only coming as a guest, so I posed the idea that she come for a dinner with me individually before or after the wedding to celebrate. Now my parents are threatening to not come and claiming disability laws against me.”
She added: “I honestly think my fiancé’s comfort on our wedding is more important than my sister coming, and selfishly I want my fiancés focus and attention on me and our special day.”
The woman then turned to Reddit to question whether she’s justified in not allowing her sister’s service dog to attend the wedding.
“Why do your sister’s psychological issues trump your fiance’s trauma at his own wedding? According to your post she has visited you multiple times without her service dog, so it doesn’t seem like a stretch for her to be without her service dog for your wedding,” one Reddit user commented.
“If she absolutely feels that she cannot be without the dog for your wedding, then she can just not attend. Also, the disability laws don’t apply here as attending a wedding is not a protected right.”
Another added: “Your fiancée issues do have a priority since he is the one getting married. If your parents are present she shouldn’t need the dog since she goes places without the dog all the time.”